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A little airing of laundry: our family recently foreclosed on a house we had attempted to purchase 7 years ago. The house had sustained foundation damage prior to our attempted purchase, and having escaped the careful home inspector’s eye, and not willing to file suit against a brother and sister in Christ, we were stuck, not being able to afford the repairs, in a neighborhood and economy where houses were sinking in value, and yet needing to move to be closer to the church I pastor. In addition to this, we consolidated our debt into a second mortgage, and so owed even more on the house than it was worth (a bad decision on our part no doubt).

So we decided to move into an apartment (after all our credit is not happy right now!). Page and I both spent many years growing up in apartments, and so we both knew what to expect. God gave us the perfect spot! A four bedroom, spacious apartment, right in the middle of the action of our lives: close to family and jobs. And big enough to hold our growing family!

As I tell this story to folks, I get the feeling that people feel sorry for us, and many of our friends say things like, “Maybe one day you can get another house.” Though I appreciate the sentiment, to be honest, I’m not real sure I ever want another house! As a Christian, I am learning some of the incredible advantages to living in an apartment rather than a house.

This post is not to knock Christians who choose to buy a house, by the way. Obviously, there are advantages to owning one’s own home, including having enough space for hospitality. But the purpose of this post is to show that apartment living brings a set of advantages as well. And so the examination of these advantages begins.

Apartment living helps remind me that here and now, temporary structures are to be preferred. Heaven is for permanent structures.

Now, of course, I realize that brick houses are temporary and impermanent structures, just like apartments. But apartments have a more “tent-like” feel to them. Most people do not view an apartment as their final home. It reminds me a bit of Abraham’s situation as recorded in the book of Hebrews:

Hebrews 11:8-10 It was by faith that Abraham obeyed when God called him to leave home and go to another land that God would give him as his inheritance. He went without knowing where he was going. And even when he reached the land God promised him, he lived there by faith — for he was like a foreigner, living in tents. And so did Isaac and Jacob, who inherited the same promise. Abraham was confidently looking forward to a city with eternal foundations, a city designed and built by God.

In other words, living in an apartment reminds me daily that the world is not as it should be. The permanence of God’s city is coming in the future, at the time of full restoration:

Revelation 21:1-3 Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the old heaven and the old earth had disappeared. And the sea was also gone. And I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven like a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. I heard a loud shout from the throne, saying, “Look, God’s home is now among his people! He will live with them, and they will be his people. God himself will be with them.”

This is the permanent city that God is building, without the help of the hands of men. It is in this city that I want my “house” to be.

Please do not take me wrong. I am not (emphatically) saying that if a Christian purchases a house, then he is not looking for this city. I am not saying that at all. What I am saying, is that apartment living is a daily, real-life reminder that we are living for the God who has designed the New Jerusalem, and not for any building on the earth as it stands now.

Apartment living saves me untold amounts of time not doing lawn care and basic maintenance work.

While living in “our”/the bank’s house, I spent thousands of hours and dollars mowing, weed-eating, trimming hedges, paying workers to cut trees, spraying for bugs, replacing A/C filters, repairing toilets, and the list goes on and on, as you well know. There were plenty of days when I could have used those hours to minister to someone in need, or prepare a sermon, but if I did not cut the grass our neighbors were going to burn our house down!

I am not a lazy person. I love to work, and I don’t mind physical work. But the sheer amount of upkeep to that house was highly distracting at times from the vocation I felt the Lord calling me to.

When we first moved into our apartment, I remember hearing a lovely sound. It was a leaf blower outside, getting louder and louder. I told Page, “I want to go out and give that guy a huge hug!” I was not kidding, even a little. Since living here, I have been able to maximize my family time and ministry time, saving lots of hours each week. I cannot stress how invaluable this has been for me.

Apartment living may not be a long-term investment like purchasing a house, but it also removes the risks involved in purchasing a house.

For our family, honesty is needed: we know very little about houses. So we bought a bad house, and took a serious economic risk. Sure, we felt like we were “saving” money, since we could later sell the house later and supposedly recoup our losses, but as it turned out, we ended up stuck in a bad house and the only way out was to ruin our credit.

In other words, our apartment does not function as a savings account, or a financial investment, as buying a house does, but neither does it bring the risk house buying brings, especially in an economy such as ours. I realize many people who read this are much smarter than I, and would only purchase houses that would be good long-term investments. And, I personally am not afraid to take risks in life, when need be. But in our case, this is one risk that hurt us bad once, and I’m not so sure I’ll be willing to take that risk again.

Sure, apartment living may not offer a tax advantage, but it does come at a cheaper monthly cost, and much less direct expense for upkeep. Some say that the tax break owning a home gives is well worth purchasing a home. And we did get the tax break (on mortgage interest), and it did help our returns. BUT, we are paying much less monthly for our apartment than we would for a house in this area (allowing us to live in a nicer area closer to school and jobs). And we do have the tax advantage of not directly having to pay property taxes. In other words, what we save each month on rent and no have to buy lawn mowers, gas for mowers, weed-eaters, etc., seem to balance our the potential tax savings of purchasing a house.

Of course, buying a good house and paying it off is a great long-term investment, and the tax benefits are real. And for some, that is definitely the way to go. But it is also important to point out that there are at least some financial advantages to apartment living.

Apartment living allows (sometimes) closer contact with neighbors, and opens up better opportunities to share and live the Gospel.

We have lived in our apartment for several months now, and have already gotten to know two office workers, two maintenance guys, and several neighbors. Our back door leads out to the pool where, this summer, I’m sure many of our neighbors will gather. Our kids (under careful supervision) will hopefully befriend other kids in the complex.

Some might say, “That is unsafe.” Well, of course we have to be careful, and protect our family and property, but wow, the opportunities to share Christ through relationships and conversations are enormous.

Living in a house, people often cut themselves off with space and fences. And I, too, am a fan of privacy. But if the reason why I am on the planet is to glorify God by receiving, understanding, enjoying, and spreading a passion for His glory, than I can’t think of a better place to live in order to do that.

Sure, the neighbors upstairs play their music a bit too loud. But the other day, I was bringing in a bag of groceries, and my loud-music neighbor held open the main front door for me with a smile and a “hi.” Loud music is a small price to pay for the potential of building a relationship through which the Gospel of Christ can flow!

Apartment living allows for the quick ability to relocate should God send.

I love our church, I love being a pastor, and I’m not looking to move anytime soon. But one of the advantages of apartment living is, if the Lord calls, we can quickly pull up the stakes and go where He leads. Again, I am not looking to do so at all. I love where God has us so much I could picture us here for the rest of our lives.

But on the other hand, so many people get deep into the house-purchasing process, only to sense the Lord calling them to the mission field. It then becomes a difficult process to attempt to sale the house. For some, it isn’t that hard to sell, but for others, it takes months and years. With an apartment, we sign one year leases at a time, that can be broken easily with the payment of a fee, if need be.

While we are waiting for the Lord’s return, and the permanence He will bring to our lives, it seems like a good idea not to sink roots to deep. Please don’t take this as me saying we should not sink roots at all. Again, I would love if this is the place God has our family long-term. We are putting roots down, in spite of living in an apartment. But those roots should not go so deep that if the Lord calls we can’t go. Remember, God called Abram out of his home of Ur. And indeed, He may call His people to a myriad of locations, and we need to be able to say “Here I am, Lord, send me.”

This post is not an attempt to persuade all Christians to rent apartments instead of buying houses. But it is an attempt to show some of the real advantages of apartment living for Christians, and to encourage people who choose to go this route.

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People know where to go online if they want to see pornography. They know exactly where to look, and they can pull it up even on their cell phone in a discreet moment, if that is what they desire. They are also well aware of how to cover their steps by deleting browsing histories, cookies, and the like.

Porn is like a drug, in the sense that many people plan their days around when they intend to inhale the images on the screen.

It is almost like American Culture is a giant pool of hot tar, and in such a place, everyone is going to get burned sooner or later. Even for youth and children, there is nowhere to run and hide where the prostitute of Proverbs 5-6 is not knocking at the door.

Proverbs 5:3-9 For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil, but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.  Her feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to Sheol; she does not ponder the path of life; her ways wander, and she does not know it. And now, O sons, listen to me, and do not depart from the words of my mouth. Keep your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house.

In such a culture, people who desire sexual purity for the holiness and glory of God are simply not at home. Walking down the mall, driving down the interstate, or clicking on prime time tv, is all one must do to be saturated with sexually suggestive images, communicating the idea that if you are not being satisfied at home, there are plenty of other places you can turn.

The statistics of people who regularly view porn, or read romance novels (porn for women), are overwhelming. The vast majority of men and women, including those who claim the name of Jesus, are seeking out sexual promiscuity in some form or the other, and are not satisfied with God’s plan for pure sexual expression within marriage. Tim Challies recently wrote:

“I read recently of a researcher who wanted to study the effects of pornography on young adult males. He carefully built the structure for the study, determining how he would compare young men who had experienced pornography with a control group comprised of those who had never come into contact it. Tragically this researcher had to cancel his study. He found that he was unable to put together a control group; he could not find young men who had not discovered pornography. The experiment was impossible to conduct.”

The vast majority of teens have been exposed dozens of times to hard core pornography, and in many cases, participate in it with each other.

Given the gravity of sexual sin, even among the Church, I thought it would be fitting to put together a list of free, online resources to help those who want a way out. (AND THERE IS A WAY OUT)! These are the best online works I have found on the issue, and I highly recommend them. It is nice to know that help can be found online, just like harm can be found online.

By way of application, I would suggest reading these writings constantly, praying through them. Perhaps, reading them with a trusted friend can lead to greater accountability.

Ultimately, the reason we engage in sexual sin is because we are not satisfied with the glory and goodness of God. Falling deeper in love with Him, and desiring to live life in the way He has designed it, are the proper positive ways to squelch out sexual sin in our lives.

SERMONS

Fireproof Marriage by Pastor Brian Branam

Let Him Kiss Me by Mark Driscoll

Desiring God National Conference: Sex and the Supremacy of God (Piper, Mohler, Dever and others)

This is the Will of God for You: That You Abstain from Sexual Immorality by John Piper

ONLINE BOOKS

Sex and the Supremacy of God by John Piper and others

Sexual Detox by Tim Challies

Porn Again Christian by Mark Driscoll

ARTICLES

Wired for Intimacy by Tim Challies

When Unclothed Is Unfitting by John Piper

WEBSITES

New Life Ministries

Pure Heart, Pure Mind

Covenant Eyes

Net Nanny

The preaching this Sunday (hear the sermon here) came from Matthew 3:5-6, with a particular focus on the place John the Baptist established his ministry, the Jordan River. This unimpressive river, as far as length and width is concerned, is nonetheless a powerful symbol in understanding what God is doing in His work of Redemption. Here are four lessons we learn throughout Scripture from the Jordan River.

1. The Jordan River pictures the difference between living by the Spirit and living by the flesh. (Abraham and Lot)

2. The Jordan River pictures the cleansing power of death. (See Namaan and Romans 6)

3. The Jordan River pictures the change that happens to a person who, Spiritually speaking, crosses it. (Jacob was changed to Israel on its banks)

4. The Jordan River pictures the final obstacle standing between a believer and Rest in the Promise land, in the very presence of God. (Hebrews 4)

1. The Bible is a collection of words that communicate to us the Person and Plan of God, helping us know Him better. Knowing Him is the highest calling of man (2 Tim. 3:14-16; Heb. 8:11).

2. God shares His love for us as we read and meditate upon His Word (Rom. 5:8).

3. Just as Jesus is the Logos (the Word who became flesh and dwelt among us) who came to reveal the Father to us, so the written Word provides a divine vehicle through which God manifests Himself to His people (Jn. 1:1-14; 1 Thess. 2:13).

4. God’s Word, when studied carefully and especially in the context of a healthy Church, provides true knowledge for wise living (Prov. 1:1-7; Eph. 4:11).

5. When applied to life, the Word of God grants to us incredible weapons with which to fight the temptations of the world, the flesh, and the devil (Mt. 4:1-11; Eph. 6:11-15).

6. Studying the Bible gives the believer an accurate view of world history from beginning to end, and his or her place in that history (Gen. 1; Rev. 19-22).

7. A rich mining of the treasures of Scripture edifies the heart with joy in ways that nothing else can (Ps. 119:24).

8. Knowledge of the Bible leads to our sharing the Gospel of Jesus Christ with more accuracy and with more passion (Mt. 28:19-20).

New Hymn

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JTPoet and English Professor at Duke University, Reyonlds Price collaborated with the ever-captivating muscian James Taylor to write  New Hymn.

The poem appears in Price’s collection of poetry The Use of Fire (1990) and was recorded by Taylor on his Live album (1993). Apparently it was written to honor the retirement of Taylor’s friend and controversial clergyman Bishop Paul Moore.

The last stanza is striking for me as a person interested in worldviews and Christian apologetics, because it artfully lists the three major worldview options available to us, namely, Naturalism, Pantheism, and Theism. Here is the lyric:

‘Til our few atoms blow to dust
Or form again in wiser lives
Or find your face and hear our name
In your calm voice the end of night
If dark may end
Wellspring goal of Dark and Day

Be here
Be now

“‘Til our few atoms blow to dust,” is the view of the Naturalist. Humans creatures on this view are nothing more than the sum of their atoms, and upon the end of life, these atoms simply blow to dust. Reynolds and Taylor seem to consider this as a possible option, and indeed, many others do today including aggressive atheist Richard Dawkins.

“Or form again in wiser lifes,” depicts the view of the Pantheist, who holds to reincarnation as the natural course of life until an individual is finally absorbed into Nirvana / Brahman. At which point, he will cease to be an individual altogether, and in many forms of Pantheism, was never an individual at all, since everything is essentially the same divine thing. Reynolds and Taylor seem to consider this also as a viable worldview option.

“Or find your face and hear our name,” is the view of the Theist who believes God is a personal being who knows us by name. He is real (contra Naturalism) and He is not the same as us (contra Pantheism). He speaks our name, and knows who we are, and cares about us. For Reynolds and Taylor, Theism also seems to be a viable option.

But even though for the authors of New Hymn, all three choices seem to be viable wait-and-see options (a sort of cautious agnosticism), the task of Christian apologetics has made it plain that the last option is most plausible, answers more questions, and provides meaning and purpose to life. The resurrection of Jesus (demonstrated by many historical evidences), along with the authenticity of the Old and New Testaments, gives us abundant reason to believe not simply in a loose Theism, as lightly promoted in the song, but rather to give our lives to the cause of glorifying Jesus Christ.

I admit, the artsy side of me gets teary-eyed hearing the song. It comes across with an element of hope on the one hand, since one of three options must apparently and logically be true. But it also comes across with a sense of despair, assuming that we simply cannot know which worldview is true. I would argue strongly that we can know, especially since the Savior has instructed us, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me” (John 14:6).

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